LR: Virgin No More
See title. (Same girl as last post.)
Here's the thing though - - As some readers suggested, she'd expect us to be boyfriend/girlfriend.
After dropping her off, she asked ...
"heeey ... are we ... like ... you know ... ?"
I busted on her. She wanted to know though. My answer sucked. (We've been dating two weeks ... lets see.)
This confirmed two things for me:
1) My "expectations setting" skill needs work. (Seeing her 1-2 times a week, talking on the phone once every day or two days ... etc. Needs lots of work >_>)
2) Just because you had sex doesn't mean you're bf/gf. (I "know" that, but it sinks in on a much more primal level when you really hear it from a girl.)
Anyway, huge step =) I'm happy.
Cheers!
Here's the thing though - - As some readers suggested, she'd expect us to be boyfriend/girlfriend.
After dropping her off, she asked ...
"heeey ... are we ... like ... you know ... ?"
I busted on her. She wanted to know though. My answer sucked. (We've been dating two weeks ... lets see.)
This confirmed two things for me:
1) My "expectations setting" skill needs work. (Seeing her 1-2 times a week, talking on the phone once every day or two days ... etc. Needs lots of work >_>)
2) Just because you had sex doesn't mean you're bf/gf. (I "know" that, but it sinks in on a much more primal level when you really hear it from a girl.)
Anyway, huge step =) I'm happy.
Cheers!
posted by Dare at 1:28 AM
5 Comments:
congrats. where do you want to take the relationship?
congratulations man
i remember my first time it went quick =D
it only gets better from here
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Anonymous 1: Thanks man!
Not quite sure yet, but I want to explore, explore a lot :) Different experiences, different emotions, different women.
I don't feel like I've dated enough women to know that this woman is special. You know?
Anonymous 2: Thanks man! :D I'm sure it will ... Man, I made so many "mistakes" :P
hey dare,
I got in the community a year ago and haven't been doing many day game approaches. How do you go about setting up goals so that you sarge everyday in the daytime? Isn't it bad for me to sarge at my college campsus cause I could get a reputation for being the guy who hits on every girl?
Hey Anonymous,
It's not a "bad" thing to have that reputation. I know a very successful former PUA who could barely walk around campus without a girl he's dated recognizing him.
I don't suggest doing daygame in your college, especially in the beginning, for one reason: There's a huge, huge amount of pressure on you.
On top of it being school, where you already have all these emotions linked to, there's the chance it's a friend of someone you know, there's a chance you'll see her again, there's a chance she'll be in your class, etc. It's enough to make you tense up and screw up any approach.
If you're just getting started with Daygame, I'd recommend just going to a big city a little ways off from you and do a big daygame blast. For example, if you drove 30 minutes to a city where nobody would recognize you, you approached 30 women, you got amazing reactions from 10 of them, what do you think your attitude would be like?
Now you've got momentum and positive emotions behind approaching women in daylight, so you can now bring it back into your every day life.
As for setting up goals, 1) Start small, 2) Have a motivating factor.
Start small. One approach a day. Or just talk to 3 girls - Not an approach, just being friendly. Something you can easily do. Do it for a week. Then up the ante.
Have a motivating factor. Personally, mine was if I don't hit my goal, I'd donate $20 to CORA, a charity. Whenever I almost didn't do an approach, that $20 bill would flash through my head, and I'd go talk to her. It works.
Cheers :)
- D
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